Sexual grooming
Sexual grooming is the action or behavior used to establish an emotional connection with a minor, and sometimes the child's family,[1] to lower the child's inhibitions with the objective of sexual abuse.[2][3] It can occur in various settings, including online, in person, and through other means of communication.[4] Children who are groomed may experience mental health issues, including "anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress, and suicidal thoughts."[3]
History and recognition[edit]
Origins[edit]
Before the term "grooming" was associated with grooming a child for sexual abuse, it had come to have a meaning of mentorship, coaching, or preparing someone for leadership.[5][6]
From 1975 to 1985, law enforcement in the United States became increasingly aware of child sexual abuse that happened to children from outside their family, committed by those who were not strangers.[7] Previously, the focus of law enforcement had been on "stranger danger" and those who used threats of violence to ensure compliance from their victims.[7] In these newly recognized sexual abuse cases, children were manipulated with a "combination of attention, affection, kindness, gifts, alcohol, drugs, money, and privileges."[7] While there are examples before this time where the pattern was recognized, it was during this decade that the FBI became aware of the pattern and criminal investigations began to be taken seriously in the United States.[7] There was also growing awareness that offenders joined youth-serving organizations to gain access to potential victims.[7]
As an example, a 1977 study used the terminology "pressured sexual contacts" and "forced sex contacts" to distinguish two types of offenders.[8] Sex-pressure offenses had a lack of physical force and behavior that was counter-aggressive, using "persuasion of reward, attention, affection, money, gifts, or entrapment".[8] "Sex-force offenses" used the threat of harm or physical force, such as "intimidation, verbal threat, restraint, manipulation, and physical strength."[8]
Ken Lanning is credited with being one of the first professionals using the term "grooming".[8] He recalls it being used in conversations between law enforcement professionals, and pinpoints the first known written description of the process of child grooming to a 1979 book written by Nicholas Groth, and the first printed use of the word grooming to a 1984 article by Jon Conte.[7] At the beginning of its use, both grooming and seduction were being used to describe this type of non-violent offender, and Lanning recalls using both terms interchangeably.[7]
A January 1984 FBI Law Enforcement Bulletin used "seduction" and being "seduced" to describe the activity of non-violent offenders.[7] By 1985, the Chicago Tribune had used the term, reporting "These 'friendly molesters' become acquainted with their targeted victim, gaining their trust while secretly grooming the child as a sexual partner."[6]
In the 1980s, the public in the United States became increasingly aware of child sexual abuse through the nursery school cases and abuse in religious settings.[8]
Changing meaning[edit]
During the 1990s, the term grooming began to replace seduction as the most commonly used term.[7] However, there was not "one official, legal, mental health, or even lay definition" of grooming.[7] Growing awareness of chat rooms being used by pedophiles to target victims came to public notice, and the use of 'grooming' to mean "To win the confidence of (a victim) in order to a commit sexual assault on him or her" became mainstream.[6] In academia, the description of grooming strategies in online cases became distinct from the descriptions of pre-Internet grooming strategies.[9]
In 2008, a BBC report stated that "grooming" had taken on a pejorative meaning; no longer associated with animal care or mentoring, it had become associated with pedophiles and pedophilia.[6] This caused outrage when the term "groomed" was used to describe the behavior of someone who had obtained leaked documents from a civil servant.[6] The news report mentioned other uses of the term "groom" that also had negative connotation, such as "groomed for terrorism" or "groomed to become suicide bombers".[6]
A 2022 report by the Christian Monitor, reported that the word "grooming" was now seen as "sinister".[5] Instead of meaning "to prepare as a political candidate ... to prepare or coach for a career," the term had shifted in public discourse to mean "to befriend or influence (a child), now esp. via the internet, in preparation for future sexual abuse."[5]
Patterns[edit]
Non-violent offenders[edit]
To establish a good relationship with a child and the child's family, child groomers might do several things: They might try to gain the child's or parents' trust by befriending them, with the goal of easy access to the child.[1][10][11] A trusting relationship with the family means the child's parents are less likely to believe potential accusations.[1] Child groomers might look for opportunities to have time alone with the child, which can be done by offering to babysit; the groomers may also invite the child for sleepovers, for opportunistic bed sharing.[12] They might give gifts or money to the child in exchange for sexual contact, or for no apparent reason.[12][13] Commonly, they show pornography to the child, or talk about sexual topics with the child, hoping to make it easy for the child to accept such acts, thus normalizing the behavior.[14][15][16] They may also engage in hugging, kissing, or other physical contact, even when the child does not want it.[12][17]
When grooming techniques are successful, the resulting compliance of the child can be mis-interpreted as consent; and the child treated as if they were not a victim of crime.[7] When the behavior is considered criminal, it can still be perceived as a lesser offense.[7]
Some offenders prefer sexual gratification from less obvious types of behaviors, and grooming behaviors in and of themselves are the goal as they provide a chance to engage in a paraphilia.[7]
Signs that characterize child groomers include: a person who takes an unusual interest in a child, particularly if the interest is primarily focused on their physical appearance, behavior or activities;[18] a person who tries to communicate with a child online or in person in secret, outside the knowledge of the child's parents or guardians;[18] a person who attempts to isolate a child from their friends or family, or who discourages the child from spending time with others;[19] or a person who asks a child to keep secrets or who makes the child feel like they are special or important in a way that is inappropriate.[20]
Online offenders[edit]
Sexual grooming of children also occurs on the Internet. Some abusers (sometimes posing as children themselves) chat with children online and make arrangements to meet with them in person. Online grooming of minors is most prevalent in relation to the 13–17 age group (99% of cases), and particularly 13–14 (48%). The majority of targeted children are girls, and most victimization occurs with mobile-phone support. Children and teenagers who are highly curious and high-sensation-seeking are at higher risk than others.[21]
Facebook has been involved in controversy as to whether it takes enough precautions against the sexual grooming of children. Jim Gamble, leader of the Child Exploitation and Online Protection Centre (CEOP) in the UK, said in 2010 that his office had received 292 complaints about Facebook users in 2009 but that none of the complaints had come directly from Facebook. A spokesman for Facebook responded to complaints by meeting CEOP directly in person, and said that they take safety issues "very seriously".[22] In 2003, MSN implemented chat room restrictions to help protect children from adults seeking sexual conversations with them.[23] In 2005, Yahoo! chat rooms were investigated by the New York State attorney general's office for allowing users to create rooms whose names suggested they were being used for this purpose; that October, Yahoo! agreed to "implement policies and procedures designed to ensure" that such rooms would not be allowed.[24] Computer programs have been developed to analyse chat rooms and other instant messaging logs for suspicious activity.[25] As this can be prevented not only on platform level but also on the point of entry, it is recommended that parents establish safe environments for their children to use the Internet, with reduced risk of encountering cyber grooming individuals.[26]
Pedophiles and predators[27][28][29] use online grooming to carry out cybersex trafficking crimes. After the pedophile gains the trust from a local cybersex trafficker, often a parent or neighbor of the victim, the online sexual exploitation will take place.[30]
Suspected offenders have used the so-called "fantasy defense", the argument that they were only expressing fantasies and not plans of future behavior, to defend actions such as online communication.[31] In the U.S., case law draws a distinction between those two and some people accused of "grooming" have successfully used this defense.[32]
In the US, an online privacy law, Children's Online Privacy Protection Act, has been misattributed[33] as a measure to prevent online child grooming and protect children from child predators.[34]