Asma bint Umais
أَسْمَاء بِنْت عُمَيْس
أَسْمَاء بِنْت عُمَيْس
Bab al-Saghir Cemetery in Damascus, Syria
- Rabia ibn Riyab al-Hilali (widowed/divorced)
- Ja'far ibn Abi Talib (widowed)
- Abu Bakr (widowed)
- Ali (widowed)
- Abd Allah ibn Ja'far
- Awn ibn Ja'far
- Muhammad ibn Ja'far
- Muhammad ibn Abi Bakr
- Yahya ibn Ali
- Awn ibn Ali
- Umays ibn Ma'ad (father)
- Hind bint Awf (mother)
- Salma bint Umays (full-sister)
- Awn ibn Umays (full-brother)
- Mahmiyah ibn Al-Jaz'i al-Zubaydi (maternal half-brother)
- Al-Saayib ibn al-Harith (maternal half-brother)
- Qatn ibn al-Harith (maternal half-brother)
- Lubaba bint al-Harith (maternal half-sister)
- Maymuna bint al-Harith (maternal half-sister)
- Zaynab bint Khuzayma (maternal half-sister)
- Muhammad ibn Abdullah (brother-in-law)
- Hamza ibn Abd al-Muttalib (uncle-in-law & sister's husband)
- Al-Abbas ibn Abd al-Muttalib (uncle-in-law & sister's husband)
- Qasim ibn Muhammad ibn Abi Bakr (grandson)
Banu Khatham (by birth)
Banu Quraysh (by marriage)
Early life and family[edit]
Asma's birth year is unknown, however, being the first born of her mother's third marriage, narrows down her birth year to around 597 to 600 CE. She was born apparently in Mecca as the daughter of immigrants. Her father was Umays ibn Ma'ad from the Khath'am tribe, and her mother was Hind bint Awf from the Himyar tribe.[3][4]: 196
Her full siblings were Salma bint Umays, wife of Hamza ibn Abdul Muttalib, and Awn ibn Umais. Her maternal half-siblings included two of Muhammad's wives, Zaynab bint Khuzayma and Maymunah bint al-Harith, as well as Umm Faḍl, the wife of Abbas ibn Abdul Muttalib, Al-Sa'ib ibn al-Harith, Qatn ibn al-Harith, and the community treasurer Mahmiyah ibn Al-Jaz'.[3]
Asma and her sister Salma both converted to Islam "after the Messenger of Allah had entered the house of al-Arqam",[4]: 196, 199 i.e., between late 614 and early 616 CE. She is notable for having been the wife of three of Muhammad's close companions.
Married life[edit]
Marriage to Jafar[edit]
Asma's first marriage was probably to Rabia ibn Riyab al-Hilali from Banu Hilal tribe in Hejaz, who either died before Islam or divorced her.
Shortly afterwards, she was married to Ja'far ibn Abi Talib from the Banu Hashim clan of the Quraysh tribe. In 616 she emigrated with him to Abyssinia, where she gave birth to their three sons, Abdullah, Muhammad and Awn.[4]: 196 Asma disliked living in Abyssinia and she later referred to "fear" and "harm" that she had suffered there[5] while "far away and banished,"[4]: 196 though she did not enlarge on the nature of these difficulties.
They returned to Medina in 628, at the time of the Muslim conquest of Khaybar.[6]: 526 [7]: 336
Ja'far fought at the Battle of Mu'tah against the Ghassanids, who were aided by the Byzantines, in September 629 and, Ja'far along with Zayd ibn Haritha and Abdullah ibn Rawahah, was killed there.[6]: 534 [7]: 374
Asma narrated how she heard the news of her husband's death. "The Prophet came to me. I had prepared forty mann of 'dip' [tanned forty skins] and kneaded the dough. I took my two sons and I washed their faces and put oil on them. The Messenger of God came to me and said, 'O Asma, where are the sons of Ja'far?' I brought them to him and he embraced them and smelt them, then his eyes welled up and he cried. I said, 'Why, Messenger of God, perhaps [you have news] about Ja'far.' He replied, 'Yes, he was killed today.' I stood up and screamed, and the women came to me. The Prophet began to say, 'O Asma, do not speak obscene words or beat your chest!'" Her son Abd Allah remembered: "He said, 'O Asma, will you not rejoice? Indeed, God most high has made two wings for Ja'far, that he may fly with them in Paradise!'" Then Muhammad told his daughter Fatimah, "Prepare food for the family of Ja'far, for they are preoccupied today."[4]: 197 [7]: 377
Marriage to Abu Bakr[edit]
After Ja'far's death Asma married Abu Bakr. She gave birth to his son Muhammad in 632 at al-Baydaa while on the way to The Farewell Pilgrimage. Abu Bakr planned to send Asma and their child back to Medina, but Muhammad told him to let her make the major ablution and then rededicate herself in offering the pilgrimage.[4]: 197
The dying Abu Bakr left instructions that Asma should wash his corpse and that she should not fast on that day. She only remembered this instruction towards sunset, when she called for water to drink so that she would not have technically disobeyed him. As it was a very cold day, it was agreed that she did not have to perform an ablution after washing the body.[4]: 198
Marriage to Ali[edit]
When Abu Bakr died, the new caliph Umar allotted Asma a pension of 1,000 dirhams.[4]: 198 Soon afterwards, Ali ibn Abu Talib, the younger brother of Ja'far, married her and brought up Muhammad ibn Abi Bakr as his own son. Asma bore two more sons, Yahya and Awn to Ali.[4]: 198 [8]: 12